We all get trapped in a pattern depending on where we are in life.
As an individual or as a parent, if we are in survival mode (housing loan, tight finances, some illness), that is the pattern in which we will operate in the world. We react from that frame of mind.
When we don’t accept our phase of life, we get into comparisons. Our attention is more on what others are doing than what we must do.
Many of us do not acknowledge this phase of our internal struggle due to external circumstances. As a result, we only know the language of comparison.
We unconsciously design our lives as we see others do.
A classic example of people who are just not happy but still do “donkey work.”
To jump to the state where we want to be, we must be aware of our current state of mind, health, finances, awareness, and so on.
This gives life direction and purpose.